I am going to admit that I
have had some mixed feelings about this bill.
As a Pastoral Counselor who is a member of the American Association of Pastoral Counselors, my own code of ethics says that I will not discriminate in
providing assistance to any person on the basis of “race, ethnicity, gender identity, sexual
orientation, religion, health status, age, disabilities or national origin…However,
it also says that if I am unable or “unwilling for appropriate reasons, to
provide professional help or continue a professional relationship, every
reasonable effort is made to arrange for continuation of treatment with another
professional.” In my mind, “an
appropriate reason” might be that I am not trained to deal with a particular
issue, but it might mean that a therapist cannot overcome strong personal
feelings (positive or negative) for a client and can no longer provide
objective care. I would think that if I
am convinced that it will affect my own faith walk to sit and provide care to a
person who lives a life I don’t agree with, then perhaps I would want to refer
them to another person. It would seem
like good care. While this is how this
bill is presented, I do not believe there are larger issues here.
Each time I agree to sit with a client, I am invited
to share in the depth of that client’s story.
If I am doing my job well, the relationship deepens as more is revealed
about the person in front of me. Part of
the healing for that person involves them feeling heard and understood as they share
the twists and turns of hurts and struggles by someone who does not rush to
make judgement, but allows the story to unfold.
As the story unfolds, we realize the vast number of experiences,
thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and relationships that make up the person in front
of us. Hopefully we began to understand the
human being in front us from inside the context of his or her own
experience. The ideal therapist
maintains sufficient objectivity to help the person with us begin to find a new
narrative. This objective “being with”
is not writing the new narrative – not telling a person what to do – but sitting
with them and offering reflection and questions that allow the person to find
new meaning.
However, if I we reduce another person to one aspect
of their personhood, that is prejudice.
If we make a decision to reject a person based on that one thing, that
is discrimination. Those who support the
new law in Tennessee seem to be seeking a legal protection for doing this very
thing on the basis of their religion. It
is for me, however, my religion that compels me to be the therapist I am. I seek to be the kind of therapist that I am because
I have experienced the love of God in a relationship like the one I described
earlier. When I look at the life of
Jesus, I see a man who time and again, looked at a person and did not see the
labels and categories that other people used to judge and divide, but saw the person
inside the person – the person beyond the label. Good therapy – secular or religious – should seek
to embody this reality. We should not be seeking ways to legally reject people, but Godly ways to understand, love, and connect.
For 31 years, the staff of Insight Counseling Centers(Formerly the Pastoral Counseling Centers of Tennessee) has sought to meet each
client where they are, to provide a sacred and caring space that allows for
open self-reflection, and to help the person develop into who they understand
God to be calling them to be. We seek to
understand our clients’ story from their inside out and to hold that story with
respect and care. We have always sought to
embody a “Counseling Unconditionally” that mirrors our understanding of God’s
love for us. We will continue to do
this. You are welcome here.
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